Freedom is possible

Meet Jake

My name is Jake Banks. As a Recovery Coach, I help men who are struggling with the dark, painful bondage of sexual addiction, including online pornography, break free, experience healing, and live with joy.

Shame, guilt, embarrassment, and isolation are lies that keep us in bondage. You are not alone! Through a process of rigorous honesty, connection with other men in recovery, and spiritual healing, I help individuals break the chains of addiction so they can have true intimacy and lasting joy in their lives.

While therapists focus on the question "Why;" as a coach, I focus on the questions "What" and "How." If you knew why you are addicted, there would be no need to ask for help! Understanding how you became addicted and what keeps you in bondage are the first steps to learning how to be sober and what will keep you on the path to life changing freedom.

Long lasting recovery is not achieved alone. We must be honest with ourselves, God, and those we love most to have healing. Connection with others in recovery helps build a foundation of honesty on which joyful recovery can be built. If you are honest, there is hope for recovery!

The Solution

The Problem

Simply stopping the undesirable behaviors of lust or pornography use does not fix the problem. The real problem is hidden underneath. Addiction thrives in the darkness of secrecy and deception because hiding who we truly are keeps us isolated and isolation keeps us in bondage.

Lifelong Freedom

Recovery That Lasts

Am I addicted?

Our experiences in addiction may be unique, but the symptoms of addiction are strikingly similar:

• You continue to view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior despite the negative consequences in your life.

• You are stuck in a cycle of "view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior, feel intense guilt, shame, or depression, repent, use again, repeat."

• You have experienced issues with intimacy, sexual performance, or have lost interest in having sex with your spouse.

• You have abandoned activities you previously enjoyed such as hobbies, sports, socializing, etc.

• You neglect or avoid important responsibilities in order to have time to view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior.

• You have developed unrealistic expectations about sex or view people as objects.

• You view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior as a way to cope with stress, anxiety, loneliness, anger, or to "unwind."

• You go to great lengths to lie and hide your pornography use or risky sexual behavior.

• You are unable to stop or "cut back" no matter how hard you try.

• You are hyper critical, angry, annoyed, or irritable for seemingly no reason.

*If any of these symptoms of addiction are present in your life, you are not alone! Freedom from sexual addiction is possible!

Get in touch

If you are not sure where to start or if you have any questions, reach out and connect with Jake.

Email

jake@jakebanks.help