Get to know Jake

I completed my formal education at Saint Vincent College, obtaining a Bachelor of Arts in Sociology. I am a Certified Professional Recovery Coach, earning my certification from the International Association of Professional Recovery Coaches (IAPRC). In my professional career, I worked for half a decade in the Mental Health and Intellectual Disabilities fields, in many cases, supporting individuals who struggled with addiction.

In my personal life, I struggled with alcohol addiction for several years, eventually finding freedom through a renewed relationship with Jesus Christ and becoming acquainted with the 12 Steps. Alcohol was the problem I was willing to deal with, its negative effects on my life were obvious; however, addiction to pornography was the problem God knew I was hiding and it had been destroying me from the inside out for decades in secret. It was only through working a program of rigorous honesty, connection with other men, and learning about real intimacy that my chains of addiction were finally broken. I feel God is now calling me to share the tools I have learned both as a Recovery Coach and as a person in recovery to help others find lasting freedom from the darkness and isolation of addiction.

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Long lasting recovery is not achieved alone. We must be honest with ourselves, God, and those we love most to have healing. Connection with others in recovery helps build a foundation of honesty on which joyful recovery can be built. If you are honest, there is hope for recovery!

The Solution

The Problem

Simply stopping the undesirable behaviors of lust or pornography use does not fix the problem. The real problem is hidden underneath. Addiction thrives in the darkness of secrecy and deception because hiding who we truly are keeps us isolated and isolation keeps us in bondage.

Lifelong Freedom

Recovery That Lasts

Am I addicted?

Our experiences in addiction may be unique, but the symptoms of addiction are strikingly similar:

You continue to view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior despite the negative consequences in your life.
You are stuck in a cycle of "view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior, feel intense guilt, shame, or depression, repent, use again, repeat."
You have experienced issues with intimacy, sexual performance, or have lost interest in having sex with your spouse.
You have abandoned activities you previously enjoyed such as hobbies, sports, socializing, etc.
You neglect or avoid important responsibilities in order to have time to view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior.
You have developed unrealistic expectations about sex or view people as objects.
You view pornography or engage in risky sexual behavior as a way to cope with stress, anxiety, loneliness, anger, or to "unwind."
You go to great lengths to lie and hide your pornography use or risky sexual behavior.
You are unable to stop or "cut back" no matter how hard you try.
You are hyper critical, angry, annoyed, or irritable for seemingly no reason.

*If any of these symptoms of addiction are present in your life, you are not alone! Freedom from sexual addiction is possible!

Step 1 - Consultation:

Initial meeting with husband and wife to evaluate if working together is the right fit.

Step 2 - Couples Sessions:

4-6 weeks of sessions with husband and wife which include a complete disclosure (polygraph may be required), an impact letter from the wife, a restitution letter from the husband, and the creation of a safety plan for the wife.

Step 3 - Individual Sessions:

23 weeks of Individual Sessions with the husband where he will fully reveal the deception and lies that have kept him in addiction and learn the reality of the harm he has caused. This will include learning ways to break the cycle of addiction by being rigorously honest and fully transparent.

Step 4 Group:

12-16 weeks attending a group led by me where the husband will learn what it means to have genuine, honest community with other men. Rigorous honesty with other men is the only way to have sustained, lifelong change.

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