Get to Know Jake

I completed my formal education at Saint Vincent College, obtaining a Bachelor of Arts in Sociology. I am a Certified Professional Recovery Coach, earning my certification from the International Association of Professional Recovery Coaches (IAPRC). In my professional career, I worked for half a decade in the Mental Health and Intellectual Disabilities fields, in many cases, supporting individuals who struggled with addiction.

In my personal life, I grappled with alcohol addiction for several years, eventually finding freedom through a renewed relationship with Jesus Christ and becoming acquainted with the 12 Steps. Alcohol was the problem I was willing to deal with, its negative effects on my life were obvious; however, addiction to pornography was the problem God knew I was hiding. I was afraid and ashamed to admit that it had been destroying me from the inside out for decades in secret. It was only through working a program of rigorous honesty, connection with other men, and learning about real intimacy that my chains of addiction were finally broken. I feel God is now calling me to share the tools I have learned both as a Recovery Coach and as a person in recovery to help others find lasting freedom from the darkness and isolation of addiction.

Supporting your recovery

Walking the journey to lifelong change

Connection and Healing

Group coaching sessions with others who are struggling with sexual addiction. You will learn and practice rigorous honesty, experience diligent accountability, and have the opportunity to grow in empathy and understanding. Recovery in isolation is not possible.

Personalized Coaching

One-on-one coaching sessions supported by the principals of leading sexual addiction expert Dr. Patrick Carnes. We will unpack how you became addicted and what has kept you in bondage so you can learn how to be sober and what will keep you on the path to life changing freedom.

Step 1 - Consultation:

• Initial meeting with husband and wife to evaluate if working together is the right fit.

Step 2 - Couples Sessions:

• 4-6 weeks of sessions with husband and wife which include a complete disclosure (polygraph may be required), an impact letter from the wife, a restitution letter from the husband, and the creation of a safety plan for the wife.

Step 3 - Individual Sessions:

• 23 weeks of Individual Sessions with the husband where he will fully reveal the deception and lies that have kept him in addiction and learn the reality of the harm he has caused. This will include learning ways to break the cycle of addiction by being rigorously honest and fully transparent.

Step 4 Group:

• 12-16 weeks attending a group led by me where the husband will learn what it means to have genuine, honest community with other men. Rigorous honesty with other men is the only way to have sustained, lifelong change.

What is the Recovery process?